Connect with us

Life & Living

6 Ways To Deal With Insecurities




Insecurities have a way of interfering with our lives in very inconvenient and sometimes frustrating ways. This is why the need to deal with them can’t be overemphasized. Jumia Travel and Jumia Mobile Week share 6 ways to successfully deal with insecurities.

Vocalize Your Self-Critical Thoughts

The primary fuel for insecurities is the critical inner voice people have formed concerning certain area(s) of their lives out of painful or difficult life experiences. You need to learn to vocalize these self-critical thoughts or write them down in the second person, so rather than saying “I’m fat. I’m ugly”, you would instead say, “You’re fat. You’re ugly”. This process will help you separate these vicious attacks by seeing them as an external enemy or force, rather than your real point of view.

Expose the Critical Self Thoughts

What insights and reactions do you have when you separate yourself from those critical self thoughts? Do they remind you of anyone or any specific thing from your past? Asking yourself these questions will eventually help you discover the relationship between these insecurities and early life experiences. After this, it will be easier to understand why they are there and will be much easier to address them, reject them and move on from them.

Make Connections

After exposing the critical self thoughts, you should settle down and make connections between the voice attacks and your present day behaviors. You need to ask yourself, “How are these voice attacks or critical thoughts influencing my behaviors?”, “What are these attacks or insecurities making me do, or what are they holding me back from doing?”, “What events trigger these voice attacks?”, “In what areas are my insecurities most influential?”.

Stand Up to Your Insecurities

People often struggle with this process, but it requires determination and a strong will to be free of these insecurities. You have to decide that enough is enough. Once you’ve exposed the critical self thoughts, it’s time to confront them and respond to these critical voice attacks. You respond to these voice attacks strictly and confront them with statements about who you want to be, not what the voice says you are. You can also respond to the attacks the way you would a friend – with compassion and kindness.

Your Feelings Don’t Dictate Your Reaction

Standing up to your insecurities means that you understand that the fact that you might still feel insecure doesn’t matter. Insecurities aren’t feelings; they are mindsets you have to deal with. Stop being emotional about it and concentrate on getting rid of that mindset. Keep saying ‘no’ to the mindset, keep rejecting the insecure mindset until it’s gone.

Avoid Your Triggers or Learn to Live With Them

Once you’ve identified your triggers of insecurity, it will be easier to avoid them if you can. However, if you can’t avoid them, the next thing is to learn to live with them. This is also easy but requires a bit more effort. We are not born with insecurities, insecurities are learned behaviours; it’s only that they are learned unconsciously. Learning to live with your insecurities means taking active steps to learn new behaviours around your triggers to override the ones that fuel your insecurities. Over time (30 days according to scientific research), the triggers will lose their effect on you. But you have to be determined and not give up throughout the process.

Click to comment

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Life & Living

Baby Is Born Holding His Mother’s Contraceptive Coil That Was Supposed To Stop Her From Getting Pregnant



A newborn baby made an entrance into the world while holding the contraceptive coil that was supposed to stop her from getting pregnant with him.

The baby boy born at Hai Phong International Hospital in the city of Hai Phong in northern Vietnam, can be seen clasping his mother’s yellow and black intrauterine device (IUD) in his hand.

The coil is supposed to stop sperm fertilising a woman’s eggs.

Obstetrician Tran Viet Phuong said the device had come out when the baby was born. The infant had it held firmly in his hands when the picture was taken, it is claimed.

Dr Phuong told local media: “After delivery, I thought him holding the device was interesting, so I took a picture. I never thought it would receive so much attention.”

The baby’s 34-year-old mother claims she had the coil inserted two years earlier but it did not work because she later discovered she was pregnant.

Dr Phuong said the device may have been moved from its original position, becoming an ineffective form of contraception and allowing the mother to become pregnant.

The baby was healthy when born, weighing 7lbs, and both mother and child were under observation in the hospital after the birth, it’s reported.

The mother had previously had two other children, according to reports.

Continue Reading

Life & Living

4 Small Things To Teach Your Children If You Want Their Success In Life — Reno Omokri



Life coach cum author, Reno Omokri has listed four things that are almost neglected which parents should teach their children if they really must be successful in life.

Omokri wrote:

4 small things that you should teach your children, which will affect their success in life.

* Praying immediately they wake up. It keeps them God centred, and inspires them to act as if God is with them all day.

* Making their bed when they get up. That small achievement puts them in the right mindset to achieve more things during the day.

* Greeting their parents. It helps them acquire good manners. Good manners open more doors than good looks or good books.

* Wash their plates. It teaches them to clean up their own mess in life, earning them more favour

‪#FreeLeahSharibu #RenosNuggets

Continue Reading

Life & Living

“If You Live In A Rented House, Do Not Drink, Smoke Or Play Sports Betting” — Reno Omokri



Reno Omokri

Former presidential aide and life coach, Reno Omokri has shared a piece of hard truth with all who find themselves living in rented spaces and what they need to do to own their own houses.

According to him, there are some habits that those living in rented spaces put up that will make them unable to save to build their own houses if they don’t stop.

Reno Omokri believes that habits such as smoking, drinking and playing of sports betting on the regular by these people rob them of their chances to put money together to build their own houses.

In other words, he is advising that as long as you don’t live in your own house, do not involve yourself in acts that will elongate the possibility of you breaking out from hopping from one apartment or room to the other.

“You live in a rented house, and you smoke, drink, and play sports betting daily. Do you know that if you stop those negative habits and channel the savings into a building, you can have your own home in less than 5 years? Stop smoking your house!” he tweeted.

Continue Reading