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‘It’s Dangerous To Marry A Lady Who Doesn’t Believe In You‘ — Counselor Warns Men



A popular Ghanaian counsellor, Edem Adofoli in one of his recent messages has indicated that there is need to for young men to marry ladies who believe in them.

In his latest post, he made some suggestions stating that a man should never try to marry a lady who doesn’t have any iota of believe in him.

According to him, before a man decides to settle down with a lady, he should make sure the lady shares in his dream adding that marrying a woman who does not believe in you could spell doom for you eventually.

Here is his full message;

“If you are a young man planning to settle down, what are kind of qualities in a woman do you look out for? Many men will tell you, they want a woman who is God-fearing, intelligent, educated, beautiful, good at cooking and laying bed, a homemaker, etc. Hardly will you hear a man say he is looking for a woman who believes in him.

Many young pastors have made this mistake; he sees a beautiful young woman who sings very well in the church, he imagines how great it will be to have her as a wife, to be part of his team and ministry but never bothers to find out if the woman believes in him and his ministry. He rushes her to the alter only to realize things are not working.

Men need helpers, wives; not just any helper or wife but a woman who motivates them to become better people, a woman who helps him to see the potentials and greatness that she sees in him.

It takes such a woman to pray for you every day to become what she sees in you. It takes such a woman to stand by you when everyone doubts you. It takes such a woman to respect you even when you are broke and have nothing to show for the potential she saw in you.

It takes such a woman to be submissive to you, take your advice and instructions. It takes such a woman to serve you. It takes such a woman to comfort you when you have bad day or the going gets tough.

A woman who believes in you doesn’t disrespect you, she doesn’t insult you. She doesn’t discuss you negatively with others, she doesn’t compare you to others, she doesn’t force you to do things to please her. She is understanding.

She knows you are not perfect but she loves and respects you. Such a woman is an inspiration to her man for how she deals with his imperfections. She is loyal and doesn’t care about who wants her, for her man is the only person she wants. To her, between stones, He is the only diamond she found.

She is not the type who easily gives up or blames her man when things go wrong. Lots of men are in marriages filled with drama because they didn’t get married to the ideal woman they needed.

A man’s true helper has no time for drama for she knows her purpose in the man’s life. A marriage filled with drama is a clear indication that the couple are disconnected from the purpose and meaning of their union.

Men, get to know women before you jump into relationships with them, don’t get married to someone you don’t know personally. Take time to build a bond before you enforce a title. Getting to know what is in the woman’s mind should be more important to you than knowing what is between her legs.

If you don’t know what causes them to move or act in certain ways before you get married to them, you might end up wondering why the marriage is not working.

Last but not least, don’t flash money to get a wife and then wonder why she only wants money. Money can get you a prostitute but not a wife. A wife will keep your matrimonial bed undefiled but a prostitute will turn it into the hotel bed.”



  1. Kelvin Agbogidi

    December 5, 2019 at 11:06 am

    Very correct, if not the marriage will not succeed

  2. Nickson Charles

    December 5, 2019 at 10:12 am

    May God direct us we that never mary to our heart desires

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Pharmacist Dies During Sex Romp With A Sex Worker In Lagos Brothel



A pharmacist slumped and died while having sex with a sex worker in a hotel in Igando, Lagos.

The lifeless body of the pharmacist, Bassey Asuquo, was discovered in one of the rooms of a brothel along Akesan road, Egan area of Igando, Lagos, Friday, July 31.

It was gathered that Bassey, believed to be in his 40s, took a room in the brothel at about 10pm the previous night, after a drink at the bar.

Policemen from Igando division who were alerted by the management of the brothel, stormed the scene, where a crowd had gathered to have a glimpse of Bassey’s lifeless body.

A packet of cigarette, an inhaler and a stained boxer were reportedly found in the room while the commercial sex worker had escaped.

Report had it that the fleeing commercial sex worker had contacted the hotel manager on phone, explaining how late Bassey was gasping for breath and attempted to reach out for his inhaler when he gave up the ghost.

Attempt to lure her back to explain further, failed as she reportedly told the manager on the phone that she was about crossing the nation’s border, in her bid to evade arrest.

Two staff of the brothel were arrested by the police, while the corpse was evacuated.

Meanwhile, family of the deceased are making efforts to retrieve the corpse for burial.

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Soldier Shot Dead During An Attack On A Commercial Bus In Enugu [Photos]



A military officer was killed along the Enugu-Makurdi highway at about 11.30pm on Friday, August 7.

SaharaReporters reports that the deceased officer whose name was given as Sergeant Bulama Aji, was serving at 3 Division of the Nigerian Army, Jos, Plateau State, when he was killed while traveling back to Jos.

The gunmen reportedly opened fire on Aji, who was dressed in mufti, after he identified himself as a soldier when the bus was stopped by the gunmen. He died on the spot.

See more photos below.

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My God Is Not A Father Christmas — Adeboye



The General Overseer of the Redeemed Christian Church of God, Pastor Enoch Adeboye, says though God is merciful, He is not a Father Christmas and as such He can be “wonderfully angry.”

He spoke on Friday during the 68th Annual Convention of the church, which held virtually because of the lockdown occasioned by the coronavirus pandemic.

During the programme themed, ‘Wonderful’, Adeboye, who preached on the topic, ‘Seven Wonderful Things About God’, implored his church members and thousands of viewers from all over the world to turn away from sinful lifestyles because “Psalm 7:11 says God is angry with the wicked every day.”

The 78-year-old preacher said, “Don’t say I didn’t tell you, my children, I don’t know which convention will be the last one.

“The Lord may return before we have another convention. I don’t know when Jesus may return, but if any of you fails to make it to heaven, it will not be because I didn’t tell you the whole truth. God can be wonderfully angry.

“Watch your steps those of you who are playing games with the all-seeing God. God is angry with the wicked every day.

“Your life is in His hands and He can decide your last breath. But if you surrender your life to Him today, God can still save your soul and give you a brand new beginning.”

According to him, the size of God is wonderful, His love, mercy, glory, name, and anger are all wonderful.

Adeboye noted that the wrath of God could be dangerous, saying, “There is always one prayer I always pray. That’s my secret I’m telling you now.

“I’m not asking for money, I’m not asking for clothes, I know my God is more than sufficient.

“Only one prayer I pray: God, don’t let me ever annoy You.

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“And He has proved to me that the more He loves you, the more you must be careful.”

Continuing, the pastor said, “It doesn’t matter what anybody may tell you, my God is not a Father Christmas.

“Oh yes, He is love and His love is wonderful. But, according to Hebrews 12:6, the Bible says whomsoever He loves, He chastens and scourges every son He receives.

“If He loves you and you are special to Him, be careful, don’t toy with Him. In Revelation 3:19, He says, as many as I love, I rebuke and chasten. He says be zealous and therefore repent. Don’t mess with God.

“If God loves you, He will not leave you on your own. He won’t allow you to go ahead and do whatever you want because it is written in Proverbs 29:15 that a child left to himself will bring shame.

“Hebrews 12:29 made it clear, yes, God is love but He is also the consuming fire. Hebrews 10:31 says it is a very dangerous thing to fall into the hands of the living God,” he added.

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